Monday, June 20, 2005

I Was Book Tagged

I have answers to the questions, but have no bloggers to send it to - still it is a fun activity...

When I owned the most books: when I lived in North Andover, Mass...was going to school, was actually reading some classics, and would often buy books for the fun of it - my collection has dwindled since I got married but the important ones are still there...

The last book I bought for myself to read is Reading Lolita in Tehran - recommended by quite a few people but I have no idea when I will make the time to read it -

Five favorite books/most important/ meaningful... Bible, Anthology of American Poetry (Roberty Frost and Emily Dickinson, for example!), Letting God, One Day at a Time, and The Keeper of the Bees - I am told I will become very fond of the curious incidnet of the boy in the night (not sure of the edxact title, but I will be beginning to read it this week)...thanks for the time to think about this - hard question...

Two Days of Summer

We have had 2 - count them 2 days of summer since March - one was in May and one happenned today - I feel very sorry for the SAD people - this is suppoed to be their time to soak up natural UV - Of course it is not a weekend so I watched it be beuatiful from work - but was working with pre-school kids today so it was super fun - Would rather be with my college friend lounging on the porch of my In-law's cottage - BUT I have 2 count them 2 personal days to take before July 1st - Wed and Thurs this week are nominated...now if only the weather cooperates -
Enjoy your summer days no matter what the weather!!!

Things make sense in mine also

These are the results of a quiz I took - sent to my by the Dizzy Disciple - she ahs a like to the quiz and it is vastly interesting!!!

You scored as Evangelical Holiness/Wesleyan.
You are an evangelical in the Wesleyan tradition. You believe that God's grace enables you to choose to believe in him, even though you yourself are totally depraved. The gift of the Holy Spirit gives you assurance of your salvation, and he also enables you to live the life of obedience to which God has called us. You are influenced heavly by John Wesley and the Methodists...
after all I was raised Methodist....

Tuesday, June 07, 2005

Tough Love

Being parents of a teenage boy/man has been extremely difficult especially the last couple of months - no help around the house, expecting personal chauffeur service, barely interacting with us, no vehicle (because we finally stopped buying and fixing them for him) and no effort to buy one, refusing to work for his Dad even when asked, and overall void of respect despite consistent modeling of what respoect looks and feels like.
Things came to a head when we gave him warning that he would need to be finding his own rides beginning this week. This week came and he had not planned for a ride, told me to tell his bioss he was not coming to work....when the boss called I said he was not coming because he had no ride, boss decided to come get him - when I told the son that his boss was coming to get him (he had gone to the store for cigarettes ARRRGH) he absolutely flipped out - swearing, banging things yelling at me 'what did I F...ing tell you to say?!?!? I'm so p-o'd I could kill someone', screaming and banging around the house....I calmly said that I thought he was not going to work because he didn't have a ride he screamed that he didn't have a ride because of his f-ing dad - I replied that he didn't have a ride because he didn't plan ahead, which made him more angry...he called his boss cancelled the ride, said he was not going to work, (I later talked to the boss and he was going to have a talk with him anbout committment to the job and showing up for work when expected - oh no, someone else expecting some semblence of responsibility from him!). When his cousin cancelled trheir plans to go play around, he called his dad and asked for a ride - told him that the reason he was not at work was because he had no ride - ridiculous lying since I had already filled in my hubby - his Dad actually refused to take him, asked him what had he been doing to help us since we had been doing daily rides, etc to help him - he tried to claim that he was trying his best, then criticised working with his dad, etc, etc, etc....The conversation ended with him being told to leave - he came downstairs told me dad had kicked him out and that he would be back for his stuff....he then got a ride to his dad's shop - did some additional swearing in front of customers when Dad had not changed his mind and we have barely heard from him for the past few days...he came one night and got clothing but has not yet returned for his 'stuff' - although we were given strict orders not to touch any of it.....yeah right - when I am ready to clean out the disaster area that is always a teenager's room, I will be touching, moving and packing anything that I please.....I am simply too busy to do anything but keep the windows open for airing out....
When we have told friends and relatives (and the son's former and current employer) the story, they unanimously concur - sayng the we have gone way beyond the call of duty as parents for the 3 years he has been living with us, that the only reason he did as well as he did was because of living here. They applaud us for finally setting limits - the phrase tough love has been used by quite a few - but the Mom in me is worried about him eating right, about how he is going to have decent clothing and shoes....oh well, he is 19, he is staying with relatives, and he is getting a new job - everyone says that in time he will appreciate what we gave him and will understand why he had to leave....I would agree if I thought he would ever consider counseling - but for now I give him to God with prayers for his growth and awareness before his impulsive and angry reactions land him in jail or worse...I trust God's plan for his life as well as ours...